Conrad vs. Jeremiah: When a Shutdown Feels like a Rejection
Caroline Rucker Caroline Rucker

Conrad vs. Jeremiah: When a Shutdown Feels like a Rejection

If you’ve been following The Summer I Turned Pretty (like me), you’ve most likely had very strong feelings about the love triangle between Belly, Conrad, and Jeremiah. Some people root for Jeremiah’s open-heartedness and outgoing personality, while others feel pulled towards Conrad’s brooding intensity.

But what makes Conrad controversial at times, and yet so compelling, is his safety protocol of shut-down.

When Conrad gets flooded emotionally, instead of opening up, he retreats. He pulls away from Belly, leaving her hurt and confused, and questioning what she means to him. To someone on the outside, this looks like coldness or disinterest. But underneath, Conrad’s withdrawal is a defense mechanism… which is where fiction mirrors real life.

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Is It Normal to Stay After Infidelity? What Therapists Want You to Know
Caroline Rucker Caroline Rucker

Is It Normal to Stay After Infidelity? What Therapists Want You to Know

When infidelity happens, your world might feel like it’s falling apart. You might find yourself between an overwhelming desire to leave and a voice in your head asking if staying is even possible. People around you might be quick to give you feedback - “once a cheater, always a cheater” or “you have to forgive if you want to move forward.” But the truth is far more complicated. It is normal to stay after infidelity? The short answer: yes. Healing and decision-making after betrayal don’t follow a linear path.

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Why I Use Art and Music in Therapy - Even Virtually
Caroline Rucker Caroline Rucker

Why I Use Art and Music in Therapy - Even Virtually

Therapy isn’t always about the right words. Sometimes it’s about the feeling in your chest when a song hits the nerve you didn’t know was raw, or the way a color in a painting captures the ache you’ve been carrying and haven’t been able to name. That’s why I incorporate your experience of your favorite artwork or music artist, especially with clients who feel things deeply, are spiritually disoriented, or relationally stuck. These tools don’t replace talking, they deepen it.

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