The Difference Between Coping and Healing
You’ve done the hard work of surviving. This might have looked like long nights, silent days, and uncertainty about what life looks like after everything has changed. You’ve read all the books, listened to all the podcasts, and tried shifting your routines, and maybe outwardly it appears as though you’ve got it all together. But sometimes, even after all the effort, you notice that you still feel stuck. You’re not falling apart, but you’re not free and thriving either. That’s the quiet in-between space where many people find themselves: where coping has done it’s job, but healing hasn’t begun yet.
What Your Nervous System Does After Betrayal and How to Calm It
When trust is broke through infidelity, deception, or another form of betrayal, the impact goes far beyond than just hurt feelings. Betrayal disrupts your entire nervous system, often leaving the betrayed feeling unsafe in their own bodies long after the event. Many of my clients describe the experience like they “living on the edge” or that they no longer feel like themselves. These reactions are not overreactions. They are survival responses! Understanding what your nervous system does in the aftermath of betrayal can help you begin to make sense of your response and how to take steps towards healing.