Why Emotional Unavailability Feels Like Connection
If you find yourself in relationships that are primarily with emotionally unavailable partners, you might have already asked yourself: Why do I keep doing this? You might tell yourself you’re bad at choosing, or that you’re missing red flags, or that somehow you attract the wrong people. Most of the time, however, chasing emotionally unavailable people isn’t about poor judgement, but how your nervous system has learned to recognize connection.
Finding Belonging When You Feel Like the “Black Sheep”
In every family, workplace, or social circle, there often seems to be a “black sheep” - meaning a person who doesn’t quite fit the mold, who unapologetically questions traditions, loudly or quietly challenges the narrative, or who feels slightly removed from everyone else. If you’ve ever carried that label (or quietly felt it), you know it can be isolating and painful.
But here’s the truth: being the “black sheep” isn’t really about being flawed or unworthy. It’s often about having the courage, or the necessity, to be different.